Let’s talk about makeup shaming

Today I thought I’d share a topic I’ve touched on a few times here on my blog, and something that I feel is in society which I think a lot of people don’t realise is there. Yet another stigma…

Like a lot of you know my makeup journey happened pretty late in life and because of that I’ve had both sides of the makeup shaming game.- Getting abuse for wearing makeup and before that for going bare faced. I’ve been shamed in front of a group of people multiple times, and can I point out just for context I was wearing natural base with eyeliner and mascara so we aren’t talking about anything flamboyant here.

Because I don’t know what way the shaming is going to go I seem to have been getting embarrassed lately to say I’m beauty blogger, as I’m thinking their thinking oh all she thinks about is makeup or on the other side some people might be thinking ewww she’s a beauty blogger but she’s not wearing any makeup.

The thing I find bizarre is that some people take it as a personal attack that the way I decide to present myself to world somehow infringes on their morals. I’ve been asked “Are you insecure?”, “Do you have bad skin?” and then I’m given the whole lecture on how people should be their true themselves.

Firstly, I’m happy with myself like 98% of the time, we all wake-up some mornings and think who is this? Secondly, my skin is the best it’s ever been since I’ve gotten into makeup, all the cleansing and toning has done wonders for my pores and I don’t always wear base makeup. I love makeup free days too!

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Interestingly since I’ve moved from Plymouth to near London, wearing makeup is more the norm and going bare faced is also more accepted here. I felt in the student community you had to wear the “right” level of makeup to show you’d made an effort, but not enough to look unique or to stand out. This balance was nerve wracking to crack as a newbie experimenting with makeup.

When it comes to being yourself, if being yourself involves expression on the outside to best represent the inside, I’m all for it. It’s a concept I heard at the Kat Von D masterclass last weekend and it has really resonated with me.

At the age of twenty-four I have finally (better late than never) come to the opinion that I don’t give a f@$& anymore. Clearly I won’t rock up to work with black lipstick, but if I don’t want to wear makeup I’m not going to and vice versa. Makeup is a bit of fun for me,  but it also helped me get a routine and boosted my confidence when I had chronic fatigue two years ago. The practise isn’t always about hiding, it can be an art.

Have you been makeup shamed? Or have you been shamed for going bare?- Be sure to comment so we can chat and end the stigma! ♥︎

27 thoughts on “Let’s talk about makeup shaming

  1. I have never had a comment about wearing makeup! I have never been one to really wear makeup and the last few years I have started to buy it but I still don’t wear it everyday which is mainly due to habit of not wearing it so Im perfectly comfortable going to work bare faced and will try to make an effort to wear it on my days off or if I’m going out. I am however very much aware of how much stick girls can get from wearing too much or too little makeup and I hope its something that dies down soon x

    1. Thanks for sharing Jen! I’m happy you’re happy rocking both looks. Yeah considering how big the makeup industry is you’d think the stigma would have gone by now. Thanks for reading lovely ♥︎

  2. There was a time when I would be going to a certain place a few times a year and there was this one person always there that would make fun of my “uneven” eyeshadow. While it did not bother me when she said it, what would was my friends asking the same thing after so many times of me brushing her off. I can do makeup just fine, but had a corrective surgery on my face when little, which has caused me to gain a double eyelid on one eye. So I basically have my normal one, then an extra indent almost all the way along over top of the natural. There is no magically makeup that can correct that. It would actually take another surgery. So I just roll with it.

    1. Thanks so much for sharing lovely! That girl sounds the worst, wonder what she’d say about my uneven makeup looks haha. I know it’s difficult to remember when people say unkind things, but you are beautiful and your differences make you unique and you. ♥︎

      1. It use to bother me a bit growing up, I got over it. It is funny though, because it is far worse now that I have a few wrinkles, you think it would bother me more. I am grateful for how I do look, it could be a lot worse, haha.

      2. I think as we get older we become more confident and love ourselves more, I wish I had this confidence when I was younger 😂 I was insecure about so many things and now I’m like meh lol!

  3. I’m currently finishing up my last year of college and I’m definitely experiencing those vibes where you have to wear just enough makeup, but not too much to fit in! The natural look is very popular on campus, but I like to be bold and experiment sometimes. I have been in situations where people will be like “I don’t know why people do all that makeup! No one has time for it and there are better things to be doing!” and I’ll be sitting there with my full beat right next to them, pretending that I don’t hear them coming for my look. I think being more open about my love for makeup has helped, because it’s hard for people to try you in those situations if you hit them with some technical terms!

    1. I think the student culture is really judgy, I’ve had people talking about makeup as if I’m not there before too! And I’ve had the whole “got nothing better to do” and “it’s shallow” lectured at me at uni.Don’t get why people think they can dictate how people present themselves to the world… You best keep rocking your looks girl at college! And I’m going to use some technical terms at my haters haha ♥︎

  4. I’ve definitely been shamed about the extent of my make up collection & about being a beauty blogger.
    Some of the girls at work follow my blog and are very supportive, others kind of stick there nose up at it or kind of snigger about me behind my back. Like you , I’ve stopped giving a shit, some days I come in full glam , others a bit more natural, I’m not confident enough to come in sans make up though!

    1. They are probs just jealous of your collection! I’ve had sniggers from “friends” too although hilariously since I’ve started working with brands people are becoming more supportive, wonder why lol! You keep rocking what you want to wear! Thanks for sharing your experience lovely ♥︎

  5. I’ve never been shamed for wearing or not make up! Perhaps I’ve been extremely lucky (or just ignorant of all those people talking behind my back) 😀

  6. I have go through something similar especially the no make up situation. Sometimes I go overbroad with make up and don’t wear make up at all. Either way I don’t care . I worked in a jewellery shop last summer and a colleague well , manager from the other branch of the store asked me “where’s your make up?” When I explained that i didn’t have time this morning and all that. She was rudely saying to me that I should “put some on” once I go on my break. It was more of a personal attack and she was trying to say that I look like shit basically. I confronted her and stood up to her. Unfortunately she didn’t apologise and she was claiming she never meant it in any way. She still hurt me and I’m thinking if I should do a blog post about it. I don’t want to make it look like that im slagging her off but I simply want to talk about my own experience. What do you think? X

    1. Hi Judith thanks for sharing your experience. I have a lot of friends who work in retail who have been told to change their appearance in some way by their manager. I think it’s not on! When it comes to writing a blog post about your experience, that’s a tricky one… When I write my own blog I don’t use any names and keep it quite general, I have a lot stories I’d like to share but I don’t as I can’t monitor who reads what I write and I don’t want any backlash. I also have stories about previous employment and interviews, but haven’t shared any incase future employers are put off by it. At the end of the day, your blog is your area of the internet and if you want to share it on your blog, I definitely encourage you not to use names. Hope this helped! ♥︎

      1. I understand. Yeah it’s really tricky for me on my part . I don’t want to mention the name or people . I would say just an event or experience. So hopefully it will help someone out there if they feel a certain way or gone though a similar experience

  7. We can never win. People are so quick to judge I have been called a goth when in full smoky eye and I have been slammed for not wearing any. I just do what I want now and don’t care.

  8. I’ve been shamed by my own mum for wearing makeup. It’s taken a long time to just not care and go for it. There’s nothing I love more than putting a full face on and pretty much slaying in my own little way. I think, that because I’m a bit older the confidence has come.
    You just have to put your shoulders back and be you.
    Sally x

    1. Thanks for stopping by Sally! It’s tough, but like you’ve said you need ignore those who don’t understand and slay in your own way! ♥︎

  9. I am a late bloomer myself. Honestly, I had no idea there was such a thing as makeup shaming. But why should people have a say in how we want to look anyway? I say it’s a personal choice how much or how little makeup we wear. 😽

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